How to Improve Your Body Confidence

By Alexandra Caspero on July 25, 2014

A few month’s ago, we chatted about one of my favorite topics- Happy Weight vs. Idea Body Weight. And while I loved reading your replies and positive affirmations, I am also realistic enough to understand that it’s easier said than done.

Accepting your happy weight is a lot easier when you’re happy and a lot harder when you’re not. It’s hard to find your happy weight when you so-often beat yourself up for eating that extra cookie, for feeling self-conscious in your bikini or when you have to shop for clothes, in a bigger size. I’m not saying that you can’t be happy in those places, but I understand that it’s harder.

Improving Body Image And Body Confidence

That’s where body confidence comes into play. Because being happy is more than just a state of mind, it’s in the actions of our everyday life. For starters, quit- and I mean QUIT- the fat talk.

You know fat talk:

“I hate the way my thighs rub together”
“You’re so skinny! I wish I could look like you”
“My stomach is so gross”
…and on and on and on.

It’s often seen as harmless or in some twisted realities, motivational but it rarely is. Don’t believe me? Try it for a week. No fat talk- out loud or in your head. When you get dressed in the morning, resist the urge to internally critique your body. When you are enjoying your meal, try not to beat yourself up for not ordering the salad with light dressing on the side.

Bodyconfidence2Not only do we need to stop the fat talk to ourselves, but we also need to stop fat talking each other. Even phrases that seem like compliments, “your arms look great in that dress”, can come across the wrong way. Commenting on other peoples bodies makes us take a more critical look at ours- good or bad. In this case, words can lead to action.

When we stop the fat talk, we increase body confidence. Not only do we need to stop the fat talk to ourselves, but we also need to stop fat talking each other.

Increasing Body-Confidence And Self-Esteem. A How-To Guide That Challenges You To Stop The Fat Talk And Start Loving Your Body.

Exercise! Not for fat burn of course, but for a confidence booster. Yup, that’s right. Think back to the last time that you had a really good workout, one where you pushed yourself and were thinking more about how strong/powerful you were than how many calories you burned. Remember the feeling afterwards? That I can climb a mountain feeling, I am so awesome feeling? Feel like that more often. Exercise, any exercise, can improve your mood and body confidence. Even talking about exercising can up your self-image. So, make a plan to focus on exercise that you love- then go for it!

It’s purely anecdotal but yoga works like a charm for me on any days I am feeling less-than. Maybe it’s all the stretching and forcing myself to be still, but I tend to be much more appreciative of my body after a yoga class. On second thought, research shows a huge connection between meditation and body confidence.

Increasing Body-Confidence And Self-Esteem. A How-To Guide That Challenges You To Stop The Fat Talk And Start Loving Your Body.

On days where you feel a little more down in the dumps than others, write it down. Focus on all the amazing things your body CAN do. Focus on all the amazing things it HAS achieved. I know these are things that weird people say, but trust me on this one. It works because it puts things in perspective. Reflecting on my half-marathon training tends to dwarf any small insecurities I have about my muscular legs.

What are your body confidence tricks? Share so we can add them to the list!

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Meet Alex Caspero

Alex Caspero is a Registered Dietitian, New York Times Bestselling Chef, and mom of two. She aims to cut through the nutrition noise by providing real-life, nourishing tips for body and mind. Learn more about Alex.

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    1. Kirtley Freckleton@ The Gist of Fit
      September 23, 2014 AT 2:07 pm

      Aloha Alex!!!

      LOOOOVE this post!!! I try not to compliment others too much on their appearance, but rather about their personalities…

      I don’t like being around girls who I know are comparing themselves to me, or ‘checking me out.’ Ya know what I mean? How my make up or hair is…how my style of clothes are….it’s hard to be yourself when you feel so scrutinized.

      I love showing people I love them no matter what they look like, and I hope to have the same response!

    2. GiGi Eats
      July 27, 2014 AT 7:49 pm

      I wake up every morning and thank my body for it’s ability to move!! I think we take for granted what our bodies are capable of, we really all need to stop and think about how amazing our bodies are, regardless of our sizes! Imagine if you were bed ridden? Didn’t have a limb, etc. etc. There is always something worse that could be. You have to make the best with what you have and be HAPPY!!! 🙂

      PS: xoxox! LOVED meeting you this weekend!

      1. DK
        July 27, 2014 AT 8:55 pm

        Perspective is EVERYTHING! I’m not perfect at stopping the fat-talk but when I’m done I feel so silly. My little bit of arm jiggle is the least of my problems! Um, loved meeting you as well! Can I come to LA to shoot videos and learn from you??! 😉

    3. jill conyers
      July 27, 2014 AT 5:45 am

      Workout or run! I’m getting better at self love and body confidence but on a day when I don’t workout or run I’m more likely to fat talk.

      Great read and reminder!

      1. DK
        July 27, 2014 AT 6:55 pm

        Thanks Jill! I’m the same way. I’m not perfect about always being positive but when I workout, I am usually better about it.

    4. Whitney @ To Live & Diet in L.A.
      July 26, 2014 AT 6:19 pm

      Great post! I think accepting your happy weight gets a little easier as you get older. With time, I’ve realized that I’m not going to be able to do things that make me happy (eating dessert, drinking red wine, etc) AND have the body of a supermodel. That’s just not how it works despite what Carls Jr ads may have you think. But I CAN have a healthy body, and one that makes me happy, and I’m ok with that. Whenever I get down on myself about not looking like a certain ideal, I remind myself of how miserable I would have to be to look that way and how great it feels to be able to eat a plentiful balanced diet.

      1. DK
        July 27, 2014 AT 6:53 pm

        I totally agree! I always tell people that you sure, you can have the body you crave, but what are you willing to do to get there? Personally, I’m not willing to give up happy hours or peanut butter 🙂

    5. Deborah @ Confessions of a Mother Runner
      July 25, 2014 AT 2:01 pm

      I’m with you on negative self talk. There’s no way you will feel good about yourself if you do it. I’ve also ditched the scale and I am so much happier!

      1. DK
        July 27, 2014 AT 6:54 pm

        Me too! I haven’t had a scale in years and am so happy that we dont!

    6. Vanessa
      July 25, 2014 AT 8:44 am

      Yoga and dancing always help to put me back in my body – to appreciate it for what it does instead of what it looks like. I definitely think people struggle with finding their happy place when it comes to weight. I love this post because it’s so important to remember that our bodies will tell us when they’re happiest and healthiest if we just learn to listen.

      1. DK
        July 27, 2014 AT 6:57 pm

        Hi Vanessa, thanks so much for your comment! Yoga really helps me as well.